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YES!!! WOW. I am currently on a show and it is the first time I have been the public eye of any sort. I have made bad choices in my past...about 6 to 10 years ago. I am a completley different person now, but people still want to see me as they thought I was. I have always strived to be a better persn in my adulthood, but I could not seem to get away from my past. I was looking for something to help me deal with it or else I was thinking of quiting acting all together and leading a normal life. This article made me realize that everything I have done and been through HAS shaped me, and may contribute in me being an even better actress. So, THANK YOU!
thats all good but what if your just in your 17 year in your life how do you get over a past that you can not speak of because of the damage it will cause to everyone you care bout ... but its ALWAYS on your mind ?Dear Jane, My articles are not meant to be "THE ANSWER" or "THE CURE". They are meant to give people encouragement and tidbits/tips to help them take positive action in their lives. From the amount of guilt you are describing, I'm assuming you are referring to some type of sexual assault or ongoing sexual abuse. Or, the only other thing I could think of that would cause that much guilt is, if out of desparate circumstances you got involved in some type of prostitution or drug culture. In any event, if you are struggling with that much guilt, you need long-term support and counseling. First of all, healing is a PROCESS -- you don't just read one positive article or book or just go to one support group meeting or counseling session and everything's fixed. Also, if you are in the beginning of your healing process, it is OK and normal not to be able to talk to family and friends yet. You have to be able to deal with it yourself before you can expect others to be able to deal with it. On the other hand, if people truly love you, this may not cause the damage to them that you are expecting it to. But, bringing everyone else on board is something that should be done farther down the road in your process. Although what you went through WAS NOT YOUR FAULT, at some point you do have to make the decision to declare that your past is not going to rob you of your future. At some point you do have to decide that what you have gone through is not going to be your whole identity, that you are MORE than your past. As far as it being on your mind, you have some control of that too. Again, a PROCESS, but you have to choose to occupy your mind with other things -- whether that is your job, your education, your religion, your family, your friends, your hobbies, etc. Now I'm not suggesting the extreme of blocking it out either, but you have some control over how much you are going to let this dominate you. And this will involve some of the self-talk I mentioned in my article. You have to make an effort to repeatedly tell yourself things like: My past is over. It wasn't my fault. I am healing a moving forward. I am conquering this. I am a good person. I have good qualities. My life means more than my past. I am overcoming. You may not believe these things right now, but again, you have to program yourself. Also, get into therapy and a support group as soon as possible. Good Journey, Samantha
thank you
Thankyou. Growing up I experienced alot of bullying, mainly because of the way I walked (curveture of the femis) and so to my irritation although it was so long ago, its still been stuck with me.Whenever I dissapoint somebody, I immidietly think of all the people I've dissapointed,of all the people who picked on me at school. You've helped me realise that it isnt a crime to try to help yourself by getting help.Thanks again:)
I was so happy with him at first but then everything went crazy.. He started doing what he wanted 2 do while i was still tryna figure out what i was gone do about the situation but seems as though he didn't care so i got advice 4rm mi fellow classmates, parents, co-workers, mi self and this article! THANX 4or da advice... I had 2 think about all the stuff he said 2 me in it made me so mad but um not goig 2 worry about it becuz i knw GOD has mi back... It made me sad but i had 2 think about mi self becuz he only thinkn about his self so i gotta do what i gotta do and dats just dat.. All you have 2 do is pray about it and put it in GODS hands and i promise he will handle it.. THANX 4 ur time..
WOW!! Very nice article, thank you for taking the time to write it
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